This essay hits hard.
And there’s this one, that turns darker still:
https://longreads.com/2020/01/15/whatever-happened-to-______/
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xykademiqz 
I’m obsessed with “The Ghost Quartet” right now – it’s a song cycle that is essentially a cautionary tale about what happens when a man steals a woman’s work and publishes it in a journal passing it off as his own.
Well, this is depressing.
This article reminds me of when I was deciding to go to graduate school and my college BF demanded that I go with my second choice because he would have to sacrifice by following me (he had no job at the time, so location didn’t really matter, it was just the following part) and therefore I should have to sacrifice in turn. It made total sense to him, but I still don’t really get it.
pyrope, I know. It’s because virtually everyone assumes the woman will always bend, even when there’s no objective reason for it; that the man is entitled to lead and receive 100% support in everything. You have no idea how many people expressed shock and outrage and concern over my husband following me for my job (to a place where he also got a job ffs); yet no one gives a shit about what women routinely give up to follow men. It’s so unfair and so infuriating.